Condolence/ Cindy Boyer (none, I just wanted to offer some comfort )
Dear Sylvia, I'm very sorry to read of the tragic loss of your beloved son Anthony, and I want to offer my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. Please don’t be offended that I’m writing to you, since I don’t know you; but I’m hoping that you’ll find some comfort in these verses.
Acts 24:15 promises, “that there is going to be a resurrection.” Many tragic, unexpected deaths are due to what the Bible calls, "time and unforeseen occurrence that befall them all." - Ecclesiastes 9:11b
Our loving God doesn’t cause sad things to happen to our loved ones, as James 1:13 helps us to understand, ‘When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried by God.’ For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone.’”
2 Corinthians 1:3, 4 speaks of God as “the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our tribulation.” 1 Peter 5:7 lets us know that we can “throw all our anxiety upon (God), because he cares.” And Isaiah 65:17b tells us that the former things will not be called to mind, neither will they come up into the heart.” - Thus the heartbreak that we experience now, won’t even be remembered after Jehovah God resurrects our loved ones; thereby undoing the sad effects of death and the pain being separated from them brings.
Revelation 21:4 promises, “And (God) will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” - Just imagine -a world with no tears of sorrow, no pain, and no death! And no sickness of any kind as Isaiah 33:24 promises, “no resident will say: ‘I am sick.’”
Loved ones will be resurrected, and welcomed back to life by loving family and friends right here on the earth in the midst of peaceful, beautiful, paradise conditions, as Psalms 37:10, 11, 29 tell about, “And just a little while longer, and the wicked one will be no more; and you will certainly give attention to his place, and he will not be. But the meek ones themselves will possess the earth, and they will indeed find their exquisite delight in the abundance of peace. The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it.” - We can have the opportunity to live together forever in perfect peace, health, and happiness with our loved ones!
Jesus gave us hope of a time when all suffering will end. He taught his followers to pray: “Our Father in the heavens, . . . Let your Kingdom come. Let your will take place, as in heaven, also upon earth.” - Matthew 6:9, 10 - When God’s Kingdom comes, there will be no more suffering or death on the earth, just as there is no suffering or death in heaven!
I hope that you will find comfort in your memories, perhaps by looking at pictures. And I hope that these and other verses will bring you comfort, peace, and hope.
And will you please look at the web site, www.jw.org as it offers much comfort that is solidly based on God’s Word the Bible, and it shares what has helped others to cope with their grief. If you decide to look at the site, when on the web site, please click on publications at the top of the page, then under magazines on the left click on ‘magazines’ and in Display box to the right where it says ‘latest‘; scroll to 2011 and click on search, and then please ‘scroll down 3 rows‘, and click on the 'PDF' format for "Coping With the Loss of a Loved One" found in the April Awake; and you’ll be able to open this magazine to read the article in its entirety. Three subjects are: "An Almost Unbearable Loss" "Coming to Terms With Death" and "Help for Those Who Grieve" This is one of the most comforting magazines that I've read and I hope you will read this article and find some comfort in what has helped others to cope with their overwhelming losses. Also; Currently the article, "Why is there so much suffering? When will it end?" is on the main page of the web site.
I Am Free / Sylvia Vaughn (Mother)
Don't grieve for me..for now I'm free..I'm following the path God laid for me
I took His hand when I heard Him call.. I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day.. to laugh.. to love.. to work or play.
Tasks left undone.. must stay that way.
I found that peace at the close of the day.
If my parting has left a void.. then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared , a laugh , a kiss... Ah yes these things , I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full I've savored much..
Good friends , good times , a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief.. Don't lengthen it now with undue Grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me. God wanted me now.. He set me FREE. Close
39 years ago today / Mama
39 Years ago today I was in the hospital in labor .Your Aunts Polly and Patty were there with me as was your Daddy ...Nonnie ...Granny ...Duck & Doll and Billy Joe ..but the only ones I wanted there were Polly and Patty as they kept me laughing while Nonnie fussed at them !
It was a joyous time as we awaited your arrival ...and went on until the early hours of the next day when you arrived a little after 6:00 am ...we were all so filled with joy with our new baby boy . It was as it is this year ....you are a child born on the Sabbath Day ...and you were my heart ...I love you my sweet sweet child .
love Mama Close
Upcoming Angelversary Blessings / Shaye Creamer ^i^Mack's Mom~Love U. (Angels in Heaven )Read >>
Upcoming Angelversary Blessings / Shaye Creamer ^i^Mack's Mom~Love U. (Angels in Heaven )
Keeping you forever in my heart thoughts and prayers. God Bless you! Love you Angel Anthony! Send your Mom some extra special signs/Blessings from Heaven this Angelversary! xo
I want you to try to imagine the worst thing in the world, that your beloved child died.. let me explain to you the reality…try to imagine, if you can, never seeing your child again, never hearing his laugh, never hearing the sound of their voice, never smelling the scent you have come to recognize as your child.. never hearing them say “I love you”…nothing - just silence, emptiness.. now imagine never seeing your child’s smile, never seeing him upset or happy, never watching him sleep…missing them so much that you are twisted up inside and the pain stays with you 24/7, you smell their pillow, their clothes, you look at his pictures and can only cry - what happened, why!?.. you have never felt longing like this in your life! longing to hear his voice, to see his face again,…and to know deep in your soul you cannot fix it. now imagine every single thing that used to give you joy and pleasure turns into hurt and despair overnight. not a gradual thing, but going from pleasure to hurt, from happiness to sadness, from peace to no peace, changing overnight. every thing you loved now hurts like hell…
For example: music, i used to love music, it gave me pleasure, i did’t realize how much music was a part of my life and how it is everywhere, now I cannot listen to it, it sears me like a red hot knife with the pain of losing my child, it cuts me wide open.. like the old song, the day the music died, that’s me, and believe it or not, almost every song reminds me of the void in my life without my child, i am not unique in that pain - if you lost a child you would know. .that is just one little example of how your life is affected by the loss of your child. Just ONE example! you feel the loss with every thought, every emotion, The loss bleeds into every aspect of your life. even with your other children, you still love your other children just as much as always, but as hard as it is, even they hurt you now, because when you see them you feel the LOSS, the loss of the child that died not being with their siblings. it doesn’t fit, there is a piece missing, your whole life doesn’t fit anymore. everything that felt right, now feels wrong. and of course there is always the missing, the horrible gut wrenching, out of your control missing…
As good parents we were always able to fix things or make things better for our children.. this we cannot fix, cannot make it better. so on top of everything else you are feeling, you also feel helpless..out of control and hopeless…and this is universal, every parent that truly loves their child will feel this. are you starting to imagine now how it feels? and you are doing this exercise for 10 minutes, imagine, really imagine, feeling this way 24/7 - day after day, month after month, and no matter what you are doing or who you are talking to, a tape of your child plays over and over in your mind. your child when he was a baby, a laughing happy little boy, a cute young teen, a wonderful young man or women and it always plays in your head and you do not want to forget even a single second of your beautiful child’s life…but that is a fear you have, that as time passes you will start to forget…so now, please add FEAR to the list of emotions. this is what it really feels like. a part of you has died, don’t just read the words, FEEL them - died, gone forever… a real, beautiful, living part of you has died… and you are still living, left behind to try to pick up the pieces of your shattered life and not having a clue where to even begin. No wonder a high percentage of marriages break up, parents have breakdowns, turn to alcohol, drugs or a destructive way of life. NO WONDER!!!!!
A part of you does not exist anymore and it is scary as hell.. that is why they say the loss of a child is like no other loss.. you cannot compare it to another loss, with other losses you grieve and you are of course sad, but when your child dies, a part of you ceases to exist, gone just like that, gone no warning, just gone. And the life that you knew, the things you always felt, the things in your life that made sense, that you held on to, that makes up who you are - are Gone!!!That is why when parents who have lost children hear “I want the old you back”, “it’s been a year (a month, 6 month-whatever), don’t you feel better yet?” “You are doing this to yourself, you’re making it harder on yourself”, “grief can become a selfish thing you know”, we can only shake our heads and feel sadness and hopelessness, because there is no way our lives will ever be like it was when our child was alive. No wonder bereaved parents isolate themselves, we are just trying to hold on. So were you able to imagine for 10 minutes what it must feel like? even 2 minutes is too long to imagine the unimaginable, to feel the pain, i would not wish it any anyone, but did you get a sense of how life-changing it is?
Imagine you feel this 24/7, not even getting a moments relief from it! now go on and put on your favorite CD to listen to, enjoy the music..go home and hug your child, listen to them laugh, watch her smile, smell the scent that you know is them and please do not tell me how I should feel or that i am holding onto this, or that my friends/family must be tired of watching me go through this, because if you haven’t lost a beloved child of yours, you haven’t got a clue. Now when you hear these words “the presence of his absence is everywhere”, will you finally understand?
Words are not enough / Tammie Sgaggero Mother Of Brandon (mother of angel friend )Read >>
Words are not enough / Tammie Sgaggero Mother Of Brandon (mother of angel friend )
Words are not even thought up yet to describe the horror you have gone through in the event that happened to your son. The pain that you and your family will face in the future will be ongoing, I am sure. May God with his mercy soften the blow to your heart and your pain. May God inflict the justice so deserved by your son's killer while he is still alive to feel it. It's not enough, but it's a start.
I am so terribly sorry. Your angel is loved and not forgotten, ever.
Ask My Mom How She Is / Sylvia (Mother)
Ask My Mom How She Is
My Mom, she tells a lot of lies she never did before. From now until she dies, she'll tell a whole lot more. Ask my Mom how she is and because she can't explain, She will tell a little lie because she can't describe the pain. Ask my Mom how is she, She'll say "I'm alright." If that's the truth, then tell me, why does she cry each night? Ask my Mom how is she, she seems to cope so well. She didn't have a choice you see nor the strength to yell. Ask my Mom how she is, "I'm fine, I'm well, I'm coping." For Gods sake Mom, just tell the truth just say your heart is broken. She'll love me all her life, I loved her all of mine. But if you ask her how is she she'll lie and say she's fine. I am here in Heaven. I cannot hug from here. If she lies to you don't listen, Hug her and hold her near. On the day we meet again, we'll smile and I'll be bold. I'll say, "You're lucky to get in here, Mom with all the lies you told!" -unknown Close
Five More Minutes From Compassionate Friends / Sylvia (Mother)Read >>
Five More Minutes From Compassionate Friends / Sylvia (Mother)
Five More Minutes
If I was given just five more minutes with you I would be sure that you always knew How much I really really loved you And I'd find out that you loved me too.
I would tell you I was always proud of everything you did We'd remises the fun times we shared The times you made me laugh We'd completely toss aside those times you made me mad.
I'd wrap my arms around you till our last second was up And although I would cry when you vanish from my sight I would be able to be happy for a little while Cause I would have finally got to say goodbye.
If I could just have five more minutes with you I would wish that five minutes could be a lifetime I'd watch you marry, have children, get old Instead, your beautiful life was just ended, ceased, cut short.
How can I tell you how much I miss you? How can I live without you voice, your love, your touch? How can we spend the rest of our lives missing what we lost? How can we breathe, exist, go on, without our only son?
Please someone, I really need just five more minutes with my son!